Behind the Screen: Digital Safety

Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month

Relationships today look different than they did even a decade ago — especially for teens. Smartphones, texting, and social media are a big part of how young people connect, express affection, and navigate their relationships. But technology can be used for care, connection, and community — or it can become a tool for control, harassment, and digital abuse. That’s why digital safety is a crucial piece of healthy relationship education this Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month.

What Is Digital Abuse?

Digital abuse happens when someone uses technology — like messaging apps, social media, or location tracking — to harass, control, or intimidate their partner. Some examples include:

• Repeatedly texting or calling to demand attention

• Constantly checking or commenting on your activity online

• Demanding passwords or access to phones or social accounts

• Sending unwanted explicit photos or pressuring someone for them

• Monitoring your location or contacts without permissionThese behaviors may seem subtle at first, but they are all forms of control and can be just as harmful as in-person abuse.

  
  

Why Digital Safety Matters

Technology isn’t going away — and teens shouldn’t have to choose between being connected and being safe. But digital spaces can give abusive partners new ways to exert control, especially if boundaries aren’t clear. That’s why helping teens understand healthy vs. unhealthy digital behavior is key to prevention.

Tips for Teens to Stay Safe Online

Here are practical ways young people can protect themselves and build healthy digital habits in relationships:

✔ Set Clear BoundariesTalk early with a partner about how often you’re comfortable texting, what kinds of messages feel respectful, and what information you’re okay sharing digitally. Healthy relationships respect those boundaries — unhealthy ones pressure or judge you for them.

✔ Feel Comfortable Saying “No”Not comfortable sharing your location? Not okay with sharing certain photos? It’s always okay to say no — and in a healthy relationship, a partner will respect that.

✔ Take Breaks When You Need ThemDigital overload is real. If conversations feel draining or overwhelming — or if someone is constantly monitoring your activity — it’s okay to step back from digital communication.

✔ Use Privacy Tools and Block When NecessaryMany apps let you control who can message you, see your posts, or view your location. Don’t hesitate to use these tools. If someone repeatedly crosses your boundaries, blocking them is a valid way to protect yourself.

Supporting Teens Through Digital Challenges

Parents, caregivers, and educators can help by staying open and curious about how teens are using technology. Ask open-ended questions, listen without judgment, and support them in building safety plans that make sense for their lives. Healthy relationships — both online and offline — thrive on communication, trust, and respect.

If You or Someone You Know Needs Help

If a relationship ever feels scary — online or in person — it’s important to know there are people who care and resources ready to help. Teens experiencing abuse can reach out to trusted adults, counselors, or confidential support lines like the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at 866-311-9474 or by texting/chat through available online services.

Digital connections can be meaningful, fun, and supportive — and they should always be safe. Let’s keep talking about what healthy tech-connected relationships look like, so every teenager can thrive both online and off.

This information was gathered from the One Love Foundation & Healthy Minds Philly. For more information visit our Dating Violence Resource Library.

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